10 Tips for a More Resilient You

Read below as Dr. Kat shares 10 Easily applied tips and ways of being for a More Resilient You.



10 Effective Ways to Develop a More Resilient YOU

1. Believe in YOU – Have a belief in your ideas, concepts, products, and services, but most of all, believe in what you have to offer others.
2. Stay Humble – Keep in mind not to overdo your self-promotion. People are turned off by pushy, obnoxious people. People love to buy things but hate the feeling of being SOLD TO.
3. Remain Grounded – As Your Business Grows Don’t allow your ego to get in the way of common business sense and effective self-promotion.
4. Talk to new people everywhere you go. Talk on elevators, talk on airplanes, talk on trains – talk, talk, talk! Meet as many new people as you can every day. You never know where your next great opportunity will appear. Be ready, because they will appear everywhere. 115
5. Be Prepared – Carry a sample of your products and/or a description of your services, and your business cards EVERYWHERE you go. You never know when you will get an opportunity to promote yourself and help others in the process.
6. Practice the Science & Art of Effective Self-Promotion – As you begin to feel more comfortable with the concept, step out of your comfort zone, and journal your shameless success step-by-step.
7. Keep a Positive Attitude & Create Contagious Enthusiasm – Your mood affects your beliefs, which in turn, determines the level of your personal and professional success. Staying positive and enthusiastic is essential to successful self-promotion! Be consciously aware of your energy and emotions at all times.
8. Seek Out & Act on More Opportunities – Look for opportunities EVERYWHERE. They are all around you. Be open-minded to new ideas and new business ventures.
9. Take Your Expertise to a Higher Level of Success – As you continue to learn and grow, you will being to have revolutionary thinking and start to think outside of your comfort level. Promote your expertise by telling people what you do best.
10. Break the Mold & Create Your Own Unique Style – Don’t be a conformist. To be truly successful, you must be unique in some way. Discover new ways to stand out and be different from your competitors.

Tips for Better Understanding

In this episode of #ResilientLivingTV Kat shares tips on creating a better understanding of a relationship to resolve issues and eliminate confusion and frustration.


Effects of Fatherlessness

What are the lasting effects of sexual violence? In this episode of #ResilientLivingTV Dr, Kat Smith interviews Rick Amitin, author of “If Only I Had a Dad” as he discusses the three main effects and how lives are changed forever. See below for tips on re-parenting.


How does one go about reparenting themselves? It is a way in which I was able to relive the developmental years of my life all over again and again the love and intimacy that was lost due to the abuse and neglect I experienced.

What are parents supposed to provide for a child aside from food, shelter, and clothing?

A safe loving environment for them to develop and grow into a healthy and caring individual adult.

What were your parents like? Affectionate to each other. Argumentative, abusive, distant, strict,

Because intimacy begins at infancy, a child is picking up all sorts of examples and cues about how to behave from their environment. So if your parents argued all the time, guess what you may have a tendency to do the same as an adult because it is not only considered normal, it would seem abnormal not to.

If you went into your teen years without the affection and care that most children receive you are more likely to not feel comfortable when touched or hugged.

If you had to step up and take on adult responsibilities during your childhood, then you missed out on being a kid and may need to relive those years to fill the missing pieces that make you whole.

I had to rebuild many facets of myself:

  • womanhood
  • femininity
  • sexuality
  • relating
  • trusting
  • giving and receiving love
  • self-worth/image

I learned to love me and to give the one person closest to my heart all the love and care she needed to be healed and happy. That’s me. I had to reparent and provide for myself all that was not provided to me as a child – love, protection, care, nurturing support, encouragement, trust, respect, and more.

Once I felt I had gained all that made me whole, I was then able to give to and receive from others – love, friendship, trust, respect, honesty, inspiration.

I love the woman I have become because she has known me the longest and has kept all my secrets and motivated me to achieve my dreams.  Like the songs says – 

Everybody’s searching for a hero, people need someone to look up to. I never found anyone to fulfill my needs. A lonely place to be and so I learned o depend on me. 

And she gave me all the love I needed. 

So here are some tips to help you reparent:

  • Be kind to yourself – Treat yourself good and pamper when you can. You deserve the attention. Go to the spa or have that desert or new pair of shoes.
  • Love yourself – Tell yourself how loved and lovable you are. Open up to receive love and not block it off from those who are willing to express it towards you. Love is an energy that must flow to and from. Don’t block the blessings awaiting you.
  • Encourage and self motivate – shut off the negative internal dialogue and tell yourself you can and you will. You can accomplish your heart’s desires, you deserve to be loved and you are enough.

So learn to re-parent yourself and become your best friend, confidant, caregiver, and soul mate as you learn to develop into the emotionally rich and most loving person you can be.

Identifying the Missing Links in Life

Ready To Discover The Missing Link to creating the life you desire?
Are you in space where you feel something is missing and it affects your life success?

Do you feel a disconnect and yearn to put all the pieces together for a true connection yet don’t know where to begin?

In this episode of #ResilientLivingTV Kat Smith talks with David Barnes of PeaceofMindOvertures.com about his energy work and how a shift can be obtained through watching movies and identifying the missing link to our happiness and success.


Bling Effect. Discover Your Radiance and Worth

Kat Smith compares women to the 4 C’s of a diamond; Cut, color, carat and clarity. Discover your radiance, your brilliance in your bling effect. Realize that you are highly valued as the diamond you are. Be empowered by your worth, radiance and carat.

When we are trying our best to live up to our potential, it can sometimes seem that society is attempting to mold us into rocks as opposed to the beautiful jewels we are. And as we all know Diamonds are a Girl’s Best Friend.

When you remove the carbon coating of the social, financial, physical, relational and other stresses of day to day life, we remain brilliant. And we are tough. We can cut through the hardest of challenges and solid ceilings that are placed above us and we shine and prosper.

Take diamonds for instance. They are graded by four characteristics that are referred to as the 4 C’s: CUT, CARAT (weight), CLARITY, and COLOR. All four of these properties combined determine how much a diamond is worth.

Let us now compare the qualities of diamonds with those of a woman. Like a diamond, wars have fought over women. We possess the Bling Affect. Like the stone, we are multi-faceted. We can multi task and be so many things to so many people. We are highly desired, like diamonds. When we shine, others desire to bask in our light.

Let me explain these 4 C’s as I parallel characteristics of a woman.

Diamonds are finished by shaping facets onto the surfaces. Round brilliant diamonds are commonly cut with 58 facets. The better proportioned these facets are on the diamond, the more light will be reflected back. This is extremely important. When cut properly, the diamond will sparkle more.

What is the CUT of your CHARACTER? What are the aggregate of features and traits that form you as an individual?


The weight of the stone is very important. Larger diamonds often cost more per carat due to their size. There are 100 points to a carat. Hence a 50 point diamond is 1/2 a carat. (There are 5 carats to a gram.)

How big is your heart? The CARAT/ or CARING can outweigh the stresses of life and replace it with love. Women are naturally caring and nurturing individuals. That is not a weakness. It is a GENEROUS and GENUINE quality.


How clear or pure is the stone? Clarity ranges from Flawless (perfect with no inclusions or flecks of material like carbon) to I (inclusions that you can see with the naked eye).

How clear are you? Do you have goals? See your dreams or desires with CLARITY? Are you fulfilling your destiny? Are you consciously aware of who you are and what you are about?

When you have CLARITY you have direction and are guided by your light. When your path is lit and you can see clearly, you can avoid situations that challenge your character and strip you of your dignity and self love and worth.


Diamond colors generally range from D – X for white and yellow diamonds. D is the whitest. Around S they become “Fancy” yellow Diamonds. One can also find green, pink, red, blue and brown diamonds – though these are usually irradiated.

Does your attitude add COLOR to your life? Do you laugh? Entertain others? Embrace friendship? Socialize? Enjoy music, the arts, cultural diversity, travel, the young, the old and the simple things in life?

How we see life affects your attitude on life itself. It’s like looking through polarized lenses and seeing through the haze to a beautiful sunny day. We can alter the way we react each day. Either we wake with a colorful attitude or stick in a dark and gloomy mood.

There is beauty in all things. Are your life experiences like a bouquet of flowers – thorns and all? Do you feel the joy and radiate a glow of happiness? Is there something or someone that makes you smile? When you are in a funk, can you think of that thing or person and smile and feel loved?

Our lives are full of COLOR. So must our personalities. We don’t live in a black and white world – A beige existence. You are the artist, the Master Jeweler has blessed you with the talents and abilities to create your world the way you see it. Either you see it in full, rich color or you exist in the haze, full of imperfections and unable to shine to your full potential.

We are alive with BRILLIANT LIGHT and COLOR. CUT through your obstacles with flair. Paint the world with the COLOR of your smile. Light your path with the radiance of your CARAT. And see your dreams with CLARITY.